A bad break-up can hit you like a cinder block. Suddenly, you find yourself unable to get out of bed. You become overwhelmed and start crying uncontrollably when you least expect it. You can’t sleep, you can’t go to work, and you can’t listen to music because every song reminds you of what you’ve lost. Your friends try to cheer you up but they just don’t understand.
Your world has come crashing down, and you hate the fact that it’s affecting every other aspect of your life. You know it’s time to find closure and move on, but you can’t figure out how to do it. You’re stuck in a vicious cycle of misery and there doesn’t appear to be any way out. Don’t suffer any longer. Hypnosis can help you overcome even the most traumatic break-up and get on with your life.
Your Mind is Capable of Closure and Growth
Wouldn’t it be great if you could just forget all about your ex, as if the two of you had never met in the first place? Wouldn’t it be wonderful if you could simply erase your memory like in the film Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind? Actually, that’s not how hypnosis works. While this may seem like an ideal solution, it holds two major problems. First of all, simply because the memory of the individual is removed doesn’t necessarily mean that the emotions associated with that person will vanish as well. The only way to overcome negative emotions such as the hurt, depression and anger that are synonymous with break-ups is to work through them. It is only via understanding and acceptance that closure and personal growth are able to take place. Secondly, history has a tendency to repeat itself. If you are unaware of the self-destructive mistakes you have made during past relationships, you will continue to follow this pattern. By truly understanding and accepting what went wrong, you will be able to identify what, if any, larger mental and emotional issues are at work. Through achieving self-awareness, you will be able to not only grow from these past events, but become prepared to make emotionally healthier decisions in the future. And this will lead to a stronger, more stable and happier love life.
Feeling Trapped? Hypnosis Can Help You Build the Strength You Need to Escape a Destructive Relationship
Perhaps the relationship hasn’t come to an end yet. Maybe you know you want to get out of it, but you are having difficulty making that break. Often it’s easy to know what’s best for yourself, but hard to actually do it. It is not uncommon for people to feel “trapped” in an unhealthy relationship. This usually occurs because of one of three reasons:
A part of you is still in love
Even though the relationship is ending, a part of you still deeply cares for the individual. That’s natural; after all, the fact that you had a relationship at all means that there must have been some connection involved, and certain elements were enjoyable. However, it is important to be able to separate your emotional attachment to your significant other and the “good times”, and to take a realistic look at the situation. Think about how it will affect your mental and emotional health in the long term. If the negative or destructive components outweigh the enjoyment, then it’s time to let go.
You are afraid of being single
You find yourself staying in an adverse relationship not because you are happy, but because you are terrified of being single. This is very common. Generally, your fear can be broken down into three parts. First, you are afraid being lonely. In the time directly following a break-up, this almost always occurs. If you are used to spending every weekend with your significant other, and suddenly they are gone, there will be times when you find yourself wondering what to do. This is just because your time schedule has changed. The important thing is to keep busy and take this opportunity to explore new activities that you may not have had time for in the past. As you become accustomed to this change, those initial feelings of loneliness will vanish. Second, you are afraid of not being able to cope with life’s stresses without having someone “there”. The truth is that people are, on the whole, far more resilient than they believe themselves to be and are capable of handling far more than they expected. Furthermore, while you may not have that specific person in your life anymore, you still have friends and family who love you and who will be there to support you in any trying time. Third, you are afraid that you will never be able to find someone else. Statistically speaking, there are hundreds of thousands of people in Toronto who are within your age range, who have similar likes and dislikes, who you would find attractive and who would be attracted to you, and with whom you have the potential for a great relationship. And while it may take time to meet these people, that’s a good thing, because it will also take you time to fully heal and grow from your last break-up. After all, any new relationship that is started too quickly (a “rebound” relationship) is rarely successful, even if the people are compatible.
You don’t trust your judgement
“I think I want to break up… but what if I’m wrong?” Again, this is an internal struggle that many people go through. Often, it is a result of a combination of the two previous factors. However, as with any major decision you have to make in life, it is crucial that you trust your “gut”. Your first instinct is almost always right, and it is only when you begin to second-guess yourself that you run the risk of making a mistake. Remember, no one can tell you what to do. Only you know what’s right for yourself, your situation and your life. So it’s important to listen to yourself and acknowledge that whatever you truly believe will make you happy is a valid desire, and then go after it.
If you’re in a harmful relationship and you don’t know what to do, hypnosis can help you achieve the clarity of mind and gain the strength you need to make the decisions that are best-suited for your life.
How to Get Rid of Those Negative Thoughts and Become Yourself Again
The relationship ending has obviously left you devastated—but do you know why? How come some people seem to bounce back from even the roughest heartbreak and others are left in emotional ruin for weeks, months or even years?
The secret lies within your subconscious mind. Our minds are divided into two parts: the conscious and the subconscious. The conscious mind is in charge of the thoughts we are aware of, such as deciding what to wear in the morning. Our subconscious mind takes care of what we don’t realize we’re thinking about, such as regulating our breathing. Both our conscious and subconscious minds form ideas based on our observations and experiences, but there are two major differences between them. First, we are aware of our conscious thoughts but unaware of our subconscious thoughts. And second, our conscious thoughts are based on logic and reason whereas our subconscious thoughts are based entirely on emotions and are often irrational.
This is where hypnosis comes in. Hypnosis uses intense relaxation techniques in order to access your subconscious and uncover the real reason why you just can’t seem to move on. From there, powerful motivational suggestions will help you gain the strength and confidence you need to accept and get beyond what’s happened. You will emerge on the other side of the break-up feeling peaceful, refreshed and ready to take on life’s next challenge.
Think about your previous exes, the ones from years ago. They’re just a blip in your memory, aren’t they? Maybe you look back at the experience fondly, or you wonder, “What was I thinking?!” In any case, you are no longer emotionally attached to them. Even if you pined after them when the relationship first ended, you are now not interested in the least. Hypnosis can help you re-evaluate your feelings for your newest ex and put them in a context that will help you begin the process of moving on with your life. You will not erase any parts of the experience from your memory, but you will be able to ease the pain, obtain closure and find peace.
Stop Hurting and Start Healing Today
So what are you waiting for? If you’re ready to get closure, find peace and move on with your life, call us at 416-556-4068 and schedule your free consultation at our office in downtown Toronto. We also offer telephone consultations if you are unable to come to our office.
Our services do not constitute medical care, psychotherapy or psychological advice. The results described on this site, including testimonials, represent the ideal outcome and might not be achieved by every client. Your results will depend on your motivation to change, responsiveness to hypnosis, past history and other factors.