In this episode, Luke and Pascal speak about how to relate to other human beings as an adult, and more generally, your place in the world. We start by speaking about the importance of approaching other people with a metaphorical cup that’s full or running over. We also discuss the importance of truth, boundary-setting as an expression of morality, human nature as fundamentally pro-social, relationships as a positive-sum pursuit and social media being anything but that.
00:00 – Intro
01:01 – As an adult, treat yourself as an equal to others- you have a seat at the adult table
04:35 – What is your place in the world- approach others with a cup that’s already full
14:22 – Value your word, and honest even when it’s hard
21:34 – Setting and enforcing your own boundaries
25:18 – You are not responsible for the decisions of other adults
27:10 – Prefer pro-social norms to anti-social norms
29:20 – Only pursue relationships where you’ve doubled the love in two people’s lives by being in it
30:24 – Only make apples-to-apples comparisons, if you have to compare yourself to others at all
35:43 – Outro
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Luke Chao and Pascal Langdale are the co-hosts of the How to Be an Adult podcast. Possessing of a philosophical approach to life, they are both keenly interested in improving the society they live in. In this podcast, they share their thoughts freely in order to democratize high-quality living.